After Margaret shows up for an early morning recording with bed head, she and David launch into a conversation about “big hair” and the 1980’s… (yes: Dune AND Joan Jett!) and, stay with them here: This really does lead to a leadership topic.
It’s a fun (and funny) conversation about a decade that had a lasting impact on the current culture, regardless of your generation or whether you lived through it or not. It was a decade when both David and Margaret were coming of age, and they look back at the era through their lens of “now,” as leaders, grown ups, and people with more skills than they had as teenagers.
The conversation turns to the leadership topic of “incompletions” — and how unfinished business from the past can impact our current lives and relationships.
And they look back on some of the things from their past lives that didn’t feel complete or quite finished.
Margaret, just back from an informal high school reunion, shares about revisiting a relationship over the weekend to share something she hadn’t shared before with a man she dated senior year. And by revisiting, there was a sweeter completion than there had been when they graduated and parted ways.
And David and Margaret wonder, what do leaders do when they feel the urge to walk out? What are the merits of staying versus leaving early? And if we chose walking out in the past, can we still complete unfinished business in the present?
David and Margaret believe that yes, a lot is possible to complete now — even for incomplete past episodes in our lives. David gives several examples of ways he does that regularly, including a recent “thing” with his wife and daughter, when he had to go back later and clean up to feel complete after a hard conversation.
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